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Some people believe that having an affair with someone you work with is a bad idea. Depending on how you look at it, it can be good or bad. I will try to point out some of the advantages and disadvantages of each in this article. Personally I have had a very fulfilling sexual relationship with a co-worker over the years. Even though we both have families of our own, we find that our spouses do not fulfill all our needs, hence we found solace in each other, both physically and emotionally.
Advantages of having an affair with a co-worker
- Easy access to your lover
- You know your lover’s whereabouts at all times
Since you are both working in the same place, it is easy to find a place to have that rendezvous, whether it be just a make out session or a full blown sexual encounter. You can find an empty office and have a quickie, or you can even get a hotel room during your extended lunch break to have that sexual tryst.
Since you are spending the bulk of the time at work, you have a better chance to keep track of your lover and knowing where he or she is at all times. This also means that you can be quite sure that you are the only one that your lover is cheating with.
Disadvantages of having an affair with a co-worker
- Things can go bad if your relationship is over
- If your company has a sexual harassment policy in place
If you are in the “honeymoon” stages of your extramarital affair, everything always look rosy and peachy. This means that sex is always good, and nothing bad can ever go bad. But when the relationship is over, if you have to face this person daily, there is always the chance that it can end up in a “nasty” type of divorce situation. You might ended up smearing each other’s good name inside the company which can be bad for either one of your professional career.
If your company has implemented some form of sexual harassment policy, you will want to be extra cautious if you are having an affair with your co-worker. When the relationship goes south, you do not want your ex-lover to report to the management that you have been sexually harassing him or her. Whether the accusation is true or not, you just do not want to put yourself in the situation where you have to defend whether the relationship is consensual or not.
In summary, having an affair with a co-worker can be fun and exhilarating while you are still in the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship. But if you are ever to going end the relationship, make sure that it is a amicable breakup and not one of the nasty ones. If you ended up hating each other after the affair, you should look to move on to another job just so that you don’t lose your professionalism while you are at work. But if you can, make sure that you are constantly in the “honeymoon” phase when you are having an affair with your co-worker, then you will get the best of both worlds. You can have your family, while you have your “cake” on the side. Why not take advantage of your sexual affair with your co-worker while maintaining a family that you have always cherished.
Continue Reading »Just so that everyone knows in advance, I am not saying you should or should not have an affair outside of your marriage, but it is something you should really consider carefully before you choose to do so. It is true that having an affair can be fun and exhilarating. But if your spouse finds out, you should be prepared to lose your marriage, or at least have a difficult time trying to convince her you will be ending the affair.
I tried at first to find myself a mistress through work, a local bar but it just never work. If you try to have an affair with someone from work, you are taking the risk of other colleagues finding out, which can turn out to be awkward. Also there are sexual harassment policies setup in most companies nowadays that you might be subjected to. If so, your mistress can accuse of you sexual misconduct which could eventually cost you your job. If you try to find someone from a local bar, just the fact it is so close to your home, there is a good chance someone will recognize you and inform your wife of your tryst. Overall it is an extremely bad idea to carry out an affair with a co-worker or someone you have met in a local bar.
Here are some simple steps that I have used over the years to cheat on my wife:
Step 1: Make sure you have a secret bank account or credit card
If you want to keep this affair a secret, you need to have a secret way to pay for your tryst. Make sure that the bank statement or credit card statement is not send to your home. Most financial institution offer paperless statement so you should have the monthly statement sent to you in your personal email.
Step 2: Get a second cell phone
At some point during your extramarital affair, you will need to contact your mistress. You need a cell phone that cannot be traced back to you easily. Ideally get a prepaid disposable phone. But if your spouse finds your second cell phone, say that it is for work. Make all your calls to your mistress on this phone. Make sure that the statement of this phone goes to your email only.
Step 3: Use the Internet
Sign up with a married but dating website like www.ashleymadison.com. Make sure you use a credit card and phone information from step 1 and step 2 to be as secretive as possible. Then make sure you take advantage of the dating pool in Ashley Madison. Email/text chat/video chat with as many women as you can until you find one or two that you are really interested in.
Step 4: Setup your dates
When you setup your dates, make sure you give yourself enough time to cover your tracks afterwards. You don’t want to have your wife find you with some woman’s scent on you. Or worst yet, you don’t want a lipstick mark on your body or your clothes. You should make sure you have a chance to take a shower if you are having a sexual affair. You do not want to smell of your semen or your mistresses on your body when you walk into the door. Do not take any pictures or videos of your affair with another woman as it is just a recipe for disaster.
To summarized, just be careful if you choose to have an extramarital affair. It is definitely fun and rewarding but make sure you protect yourself, your spouse and your family also.
Continue Reading »Inevitably when you read articles online on the topic of extramarital affairs, it is all about how to save a marriage post the revelation of an affair, or how to forgive your spouse for his or her affair. I would like to tell you my story on why I chose to have an affair on purpose and why I did what I did. In short, having an extramarital affair actually helps me appreciate my wife more, I guess part of feeling guilty of having an affair. But it also saves me emotionally because having been married for well over 15 years, things are just getting quite dull and monotonous at times.
For those of you who claims that you never thought about cheating on your spouse, I want to congratulate you on your undying devotion to your spouse. To the other mortals like myself, I have found myself constantly looking at other women wondering what it will be like to kiss and especially have sex with another woman other than my wife. It was just the other day that we attended a party with many other families that I saw this woman who totally stirred up my imagination. She had a beautiful face, awesome body, with legs that seem to stretch a mile. She had on a pair of stilettos that you just have wonder what she would look like naked with just the stilettos. My imagination was running wild how I will have sex with her in just anywhere and in any kind of position.
Having affairs of the heart like this just pushed me to have an extramarital affair because I realize that I cannot truly be “happy” unless I have a sexual relationship other than with my wife. I chose the de facto standard to have this discreet affair using the services of Ashley Madison. They have been featured in many publications and TV shows which proved their effectiveness of hooking up people who are looking to have an affair outside of their relationship. It takes a little of work initially to get started, just like any type of relationship (whether it is a simple friendship, or a torrid sexual affair that you are looking for). Eventually I found myself a married Russian woman who satisfied all my needs. We will hook up at least once a month in a hotel not too far away from each other and explore all the fantasies that were lacking in our existing marriages.
I must stressed to all those who are looking to have an affair, take your time to find the right partner. You want to make sure that the other partner you have found knows what this “relationship” means upfront. If it is just an affair, then let it be known upfront so that there is no misunderstanding. If it is strictly a sexual affair, make sure both of you agree to it. And lastly, if it is a sexual relationship, make sure you practice safe sex. With that said, enjoy your extramarital affair while keeping your marriage intact.
Continue Reading »Just in case you have missed it, Yahoo! recently featured an article detailing some stories of women who had cheated on their husbands. The article is titled “Why I Cheated On My Husband” and it gives some insight as to why women in general look for companionship other than their spouses. It should not come as a surprise to anyone that cheating on spouse (whether it is cheating on the husband or cheating on the wife) is prevalent nowadays. Even though it is sad to see that so many people are cheating on their spouses, it has become such a daily occurrence everywhere.
For A Wife: Why I Cheat On My Husband
Just like the Yahoo! article has indicated, most of the time a wife cheat on the husband because of abusive husbands, incompatible personalities, or the husbands just lost interests in their wives. In all these cases, the wive ended up looking for companionship with another man who can satisfy her needs. These needs might not be strictly sexual needs, but most of the time they are the emotional needs. Wives wants to be loved, they want to feel wanted, they wanted to feel like the men needs and desires them. I found a Russian woman and
For A Husband: Why I Cheat On My Wife
Most of the the time, when the husbands cheat on their wives, they are looking just for the excitement of sex with another woman. I am sure there might be some “legitimate” reasons for a husband to cheat on his wife, but generally speaking the men are just looking for new “pastures” to conquer. Some men have the tendency to want more sex from different women, and that fuels the need for the extramarital affair.
Cheating Spouses
I am not justifying the “cause” (if there is a legitimate one at that) for one cheating on his or her spouse, but if you choose to do it, I do have some advice for you. First, make sure that you are discreet about it. Do not broadcast it so that everyone that you know of knows of your tryst. Save some dignity for your spouse so that he or she does not get publicly humiliated. Second, if you choose to have a sexual relationship, make sure you use protection. Getting impregnated by your lover and not your husband or wife indefinitely will spark a divorce proceeding. Having a child with your lover is not the worst case scenario. If you are having sex with your lover, what if your lover has some kind of sexually transmitted disease (STD)? Lastly, make sure that you are not cheating on your spouse with someone that your spouse knows. This last advice is extremely important because you do not want someone to slip accidentally about your relationship with your lover.
So if you do choose to have an affair, make sure you have considered all the pros and cons. I personally struggled with it, but ultimately succumb to the temptation of the extramarital affair. I found myself a nice Russian woman whom I have an affair with for the last 5 years. She made me feel alive and needed, and the wonderful sex that we share definitely is a plus. I don’t plan on leaving my wife, but having the extramarital affair definitely helps me to stay focus on my marriage. I do feel guilty about having an affair, hence I have treated my wife very well in the last few years.
Continue Reading »It is not like my husband is abusing me emotionally or physically, it is just that I am no longer in love with him anymore. Over the past 2-3 years, we have grown so far apart that our marriage seems more like 2 friends living together. Sometimes I feel like it is not fair to him or myself if we keep up this charade. We can both feel that everything is not fine with our marriage. But there are also times when I believe that we can fight to keep this marriage alive.
I have been having an affair
Just in case you think that it is terrible of me to cheat on my husband, I will need to tell you my side of the story. I have caught my husband masturbating in front of the computer watching porn movies several times. It is not like I am depriving him of sex, because I have tried many times to seduce him, but he never seems to be interested. I actually try to act like a whore so that he might be interested, but I still do not get any reaction out of him. I have worn the sluttiest lingerie with knee high boots, even pleasure myself in front of him just to get some reaction out of him. He doesn’t get an erection for me anymore. And in order to get him excited, on the rarest of rare occasion, I have to spend 5-6 minutes giving him a blowjob. He is only 35 and impotency definitely hasn’t come into play yet. So I don’t really don’t know what the issue, other than he is not into me anymore.
Since then, I just quit trying. I ended up looking for comfort and affection somewhere else. I found it with a man I met in the gym. He is kind, affectionate and best of all, totally into me. He texts me constantly and calls me when I am alone. He would send me flowers at work and calls me for no reason to tell me that he loves me. And he is gentle and great in bed. He was always able to give me multiple orgasms when we made love.
I do wish that my husband is more in love with me, like he used to be the first years of our marriage. I just feel torn whether I should leave him and pursue an open relationship with this other man. Deep in my heart I do believe that my husband still loves me, and he would want us to have the loving relationship we once shared.
Continue Reading »If you are like me stuck in a loveless marriage, you are probably miserable like me. So why not get a divorce and then find yourself another woman who you are attracted to, and who you are in love with. It is easier said then done if you have been married for many years. To make matters even more complicated, if you have children and you do not want a broken family for your children, so what is a desperate man like me to do? I choose to have an affair.
I have lost any sexual interest in my wife
Having been married for over 10 years, things have definitely changed between my wife and I. We used to have sex two, three times a week. Now I try to avoid it so we only have to do it every 2-3 weeks. I don’t get aroused by my wife sexually anymore. I used to get excited just seeing her naked, but now she can be parading around me naked and I will still not get turned on. So whenever we do have sex, she would give me a blow job before I can get hard. And even then I had to force myself to think of some random woman I would imagine having sex with.
Recently I am fascinated by any other women but my wife
I just came back from vacation with the family to Sesame Place in PA. I saw so many good looking women in their 20s that I just cannot help but imagining all the what ifs. These women have tight bodies and all dressed in skimpy bikinis. I have not felt that kind of excitement just thinking of bedding them. These women have the firmest ass and I can just picture them bouncing off me when they are riding me. And they also have the perkiest looking breasts that I just want to bury my face into. I would even look at the nice feet of some of these women and just wonder what it will be like to suck and lick their toes. Just thinking of that, I was totally turned on. And imagine that was in the environment of a cold water setting where it is difficult to get an erection because of the shrinkage factor.
Time to check out Ashley Madison
I have known about Ashley Madison for a while through some mutual friends. Some of my married friends have used their services, and have quite successful results. I believe if I am going to have an affair, I will have to use Ashley Madison’s professional services. I will update everyone on my extramarital affair adventure in the next update.
Continue Reading »I married my husband over 15 years ago. It was a marriage of convenience and mutual respect. I did not want to remain single forever, so I ended up marrying the man who is a good friend of mine and was really nice to me. There was never any real love between us, at least on my part anyway. I believed I gave him what he needed, a wife and a family. As it turns out, after being married for over a decade, this kind of loveless arrangement is not enough for me anymore. I want love, romance, and desire that most people dream of. Because of the situation that I am, and my inability to get a divorce, I ended up looking for an affair outside of my marriage.
The man I am having an affair with is in the same boat, so the extramarital affair is mutual. The man I have been having an affair with married his wife because she was his best friend and he felt obligated to do so. Over time he fell “out of love” with her and needed someone he can truly love.
Our extramarital affair is keeping both of us alive
Since both of us are stuck in our respective dead end marriage and divorce is out of the question, we had to make the best out of our extramarital relationship. We talked on the phone daily at work, and we are constantly texting each other. We talk constantly about our lives, our jobs, our family, our likes and dislikes. It is just very refreshing to finally find someone you have a lot in common with. Someone you look forward to talking with, someone you cannot wait to see. This is the way I had envision my love life to be, but even if it is only through an affair, I will take it anytime.
I am finally enjoying sex and wanting more
Since my marriage is just for convenience, there is never any real love and emotion attached to our marriage. Needless to say, sex is but a chore with my husband. I would give in to sex with my husband just to keep him happy, but I have never felt any sense of love or excitement when we are having sex. And yes, I did not know what it feels like to have an orgasm. Then came the man I am having an affair with. We have the emotional connection along with the physical connection. The man was able to give me multiple orgasms which was all but new to me. Sex is so good between us that I cannot wait for our next rendezvous. May be it is because I am emotionally attached to this man I am having an affair with, it just seems like nothing can ever go wrong with our affair.
Why I did not leave my husband
Just because I am enjoying life much more with a man who is not my husband does not necessarily mean that I should leave my husband. We have 3 wonderful children together and the marriage is a very peaceful arrangement. To uproot this arrangement and to tear my children from their father is just too cruel to inflict on them. It is a possibility that I will leave my husband when my children gets older, definitely not until they can be independent and be on their own. So for now, I am resorting to my extramarital affair and enjoying it totally.
Continue Reading »You must think I am a terrible wife for admitting that I have been cheating on my husband. But unless you hear all the circumstances surrounding my infidelity, you should refrain from judging me beforehand. There are several reasons why I choose to cheat on my husband and hopefully by the end of this article you will understand why I did what I did.
My husband no longer finds me attractive
I know for a fact that my husband has no interest in me anymore, and this is especially true when it comes to sex. I have tried to seduce him so many times but his excuse every single time is that he is too tired from work, and do not feel like having sex. I was a faithful wife and I absolutely try to please him by being a “whore” in bed, giving him all the various sexual desire that most men would dream of. I even try to please him one time by putting on a porn video with Jenna Jameson while we were having sex just to keep our sex life spicy. But all of that was not enough, because once I actually caught him in front of the computer masturbating and looking at porn. It seems like my husband is into women in their twenties with DD breasts. So I guess since I am in my 30s and only have a C cup breasts, that is no longer enough for my husband.
Not only is my husband not attracted to me anymore, even when some men approach me attempting to flirt with me, my husband shows no jealousy and seems absolutely fine if someone other men are attempting to pick up his wife. I am a woman and needs to be loved. I also need the emotional and physical connection, with my husband preferably. But at this point I am definitely not getting anything from my husband. I would rather get all the comfort and attention from my husband, and it is just not going to happen. So what other choice do I have but to have an affair on the side?
Where did I go to cheat on my husband
Initially I would dress up and make myself attractive while going around town hoping some men would pick me up. It got too difficult because one time I did meet a gentleman at a local supermarket, and we started talking and flirting. Eventually it did not work out, but I still see him around town, which makes it kind of awkward sometimes.
So I found this website ashleymadison.com which specializes in dating for married people. I signed up for a trial package and found it initially to be somewhat sleazy, because some of the men on it just seems like scumbags. Then eventually I did meet a few gentlemen who really took interest in me. I know that because they genuinely care about me and not just looking for a good laid. I have gone out on dates with one of the gentleman, because we have a lot in common. We have also made love several times and I have a strong suspicion that this will turn out to be one of those ever lasting affair. I do feel guilty at times, but the thought that my husband has no interest in me just makes it all seem worthwhile.
Continue Reading »Last weekend I took my daughters to the county pool to enjoy an afternoon of fun in the water. In a sea of people, inevitably some women always stand out and caught my attention. With the hot temperature that we have been enduring in the recent weeks, it is no wonder that there are many hot and beautiful women around the the pool area. These women are not limited to just the hard 20s bodies, but there are also the hot mothers who have been maintaining themselves well over the years. A lot of these women were wearing bikinis which totally aroused my imagination of what it will feel like have an affair with one of those gorgeous ladies. I have been married for over 15 years and the relationship is just getting quite dull with no excitement. That’s why having an extramarital affair has been weighing in my mind recently.
I have been eying other women
It is not just about seeing a hot woman in a bikini, wondering what it will be like to see her naked and have her body wrapped around myself. I will sometimes see some hot and sexy women walking down the street wearing short skirts and high heels and wonder how exciting it will be to be with one of those woman without any complications, just plain old affair of the heart, with the bonus physical lust. I would find myself staring at a woman just because she has a good body, or she has her manicure and pedicure done, which says that she has taken the time to take care of her looks. Even though it is shallow to say, but it is just an awful truth that physical attraction is a big thing for men in general.
I am just no longer attracted to my wife
I must say that my wife is still very physically attractive. But after being with her for over 15 years, I have just lost all the physical attraction to her. I longer get physically excited over her, sad to say. I find myself more physically excited seeing a hot woman walking down the street than seeing my wife naked. And it is also not about the age of the women that I have been looking at. Because I can be looking at a woman in her 20s, or a hot mother in her 30s/40s and they still get me totally aroused. I often looked at some hot MILF and wonder how nice it will be to have those women because obviously they have had some experience already, and I can possibly benefit from it. And it is true that the older and more experienced women are more willing to try new things sexually.
Since I haven’t been able to stop looking at other women, and imagining getting them into bed and exploring their bodies, that is the reason why I believed I need to have an affair just to get this urge out of my system. Whether I will have this for the long term is still up for debate, but for now I will need to fulfill this urge and desire.
Continue Reading »When I was first married, I truly believe in the holy vow of marriage is for a life time. I still wished that it was the case for me because it is generally not in my nature to cheat on someone, furthermore cheat on my own husband. But it has became apparent to me that my marriage is not what it used to be anymore, and my husband is not interested in me emotionally and definitely not physically. Sure, my husband is there daily to provide for me and our children, but that is about all. I am getting older, more mature, hitting my mid 30s, and I want someone to love me, woo me and romance me. Since I have not be able to get any kind of affection from my husband of 10 years, I had to resort to an extramarital affair.
I would not say that I am super model type, but I still managed to keep myself attractive and fit over the years. I am 5 foot 5, weighs just a little over 110 pounds, with figure of 34c 26 36. I know I am still attractive to a lot of men because I still managed to get some intense stares and heckling from guys when I am on the beach in my 2 piece bikini. A lot of people cheat because their spouse did not take care of themselves over the years, but I make it a point to stay attractive for my husband, that is why I don’t understand why my husband is not at all interested in me anymore.
Having an affair can be exhilarating
One day when I was watching Dr. Phil in the late afternoon as I was preparing dinner for my family, Dr. Phil had a segment on a dating website called Ashley Madison. This turns out to be my personal savior. Ashley Madison is a dating website targeting married individuals or individuals in a committed relationship. It is a very discreet service because you can put as little information as you want, therefore protecting your identity. Only when you feel like you have found someone that you can have an affair with, then you can begin to share more detailed information such as a close up picture of yourself.
I signed up with Ashley Madison and immediately got many interested men contacting me. Granted, some of the men can be rude and are just plain pigs, eventually I found a few gentlemen who sparked my interest. These gentlemen were honestly interested in me as a person, not just as another piece of meat, or looking for a quick laid. I eventually found one gentleman, and we started off innocently just looking to fulfill each other’s void in life. As time progresses, we found that we have more things in common and we began talking on the phone instead of through Ashley Madison’s website. It was about 3 months ago we started seeing each other and having a physical relationship, and since we have never looked back and totally enjoyed our extramarital affair.
Having an affair is not for everyone, but it works for me
The point of my blog post is to show everyone that having an affair is a serious matter. It is not for everyone. Before you travel down the path of marital infidelity, make sure you have tried everything to make your existing relationship work first. When and if you decide to have an affair outside of your marriage or relationship, make sure you choose a discreet affair dating website such as Ashley Madison. Then just enjoy life again and make sure you practice safe sex with the person you are having an affair with.
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