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I married my husband over 15 years ago. It was a marriage of convenience and mutual respect. I did not want to remain single forever, so I ended up marrying the man who is a good friend of mine and was really nice to me. There was never any real love between us, at least on my part anyway. I believed I gave him what he needed, a wife and a family. As it turns out, after being married for over a decade, this kind of loveless arrangement is not enough for me anymore. I want love, romance, and desire that most people dream of. Because of the situation that I am, and my inability to get a divorce, I ended up looking for an affair outside of my marriage.
The man I am having an affair with is in the same boat, so the extramarital affair is mutual. The man I have been having an affair with married his wife because she was his best friend and he felt obligated to do so. Over time he fell “out of love” with her and needed someone he can truly love.
Our extramarital affair is keeping both of us alive
Since both of us are stuck in our respective dead end marriage and divorce is out of the question, we had to make the best out of our extramarital relationship. We talked on the phone daily at work, and we are constantly texting each other. We talk constantly about our lives, our jobs, our family, our likes and dislikes. It is just very refreshing to finally find someone you have a lot in common with. Someone you look forward to talking with, someone you cannot wait to see. This is the way I had envision my love life to be, but even if it is only through an affair, I will take it anytime.
I am finally enjoying sex and wanting more
Since my marriage is just for convenience, there is never any real love and emotion attached to our marriage. Needless to say, sex is but a chore with my husband. I would give in to sex with my husband just to keep him happy, but I have never felt any sense of love or excitement when we are having sex. And yes, I did not know what it feels like to have an orgasm. Then came the man I am having an affair with. We have the emotional connection along with the physical connection. The man was able to give me multiple orgasms which was all but new to me. Sex is so good between us that I cannot wait for our next rendezvous. May be it is because I am emotionally attached to this man I am having an affair with, it just seems like nothing can ever go wrong with our affair.
Why I did not leave my husband
Just because I am enjoying life much more with a man who is not my husband does not necessarily mean that I should leave my husband. We have 3 wonderful children together and the marriage is a very peaceful arrangement. To uproot this arrangement and to tear my children from their father is just too cruel to inflict on them. It is a possibility that I will leave my husband when my children gets older, definitely not until they can be independent and be on their own. So for now, I am resorting to my extramarital affair and enjoying it totally.